Saturday, February 11, 2017

Poll || Living With Parents


  Hello all! I would like to draw your attention to the polls on the right ------> . Young adults living at home is a topic that interests me because that is exactly the state I'm in! Never having moved out, I can't imagine life any other way. However, I'm learning that being a family of three adults is different than being a family of two adults and one child. This has me curious about the experience of others in the same situation and wondering in what ways the transition from child to adult at home can be a joyful time.
   To start a discussion about this topic, I made the polls to assist research. This is something in which I would like a lot of interaction with you, readers! So, please enter the polls (I apologize for the difficulty of reading the text - please select it to make easier to read! :( ) and be sure to answer each one, unless the last doesn't apply to you.

   If you are ready to share more on the topic in the comments section, please do so! What have been your experiences with this time in life?  Though most of my readers are ladies, feel free to join in if you are a guy who happens upon this post. Later, I plan to write a post on my findings. Thank you in advance for your participation!

 My son, hear the instruction of your father,
And do not forsake the law of your mother; 
For they will be a graceful ornament on your head,
And chains about your neck.
Proverbs 1:8-9


11 comments:

  1. I'll be very interested to see what you write Paige!
    I actually participated in a study through the University of New Mexico (don't know why that school was doing a study in my state--I'm 13 hours away from NM) that dealt with this topic exactly. They have not published their results yet so I'll be curious to see yours!
    I get a lot of raised eyebrows when people learn I live at home still but don't pay rent, etc. My parents have become very good about quickly mentioning that they are delighted to have me at home as long as I want to/am single.
    My older sister also lived with the family until she was 29 though she did start paying rent a year or so before she moved out. So my parents have had plenty of practice dealing with people who think we are freeloaders.
    In my experience adults living with their parents can be difficult and awkward but also a huge blessing. Not many people can say that their best counselors are less than a second away!

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    1. Thanks! Oh, that's interesting! I once participated in a medical school study about underage drinking...not sure whatever became of that, haha.
      Thanks for sharing about your experience! Your parents sound a lot like mine. :) That's a really good point you make about your best counselors being so close!

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  2. We feel blessed that our son's lived with us until they were 26 our oldest son got married and he and his wife come to our home every weekend to spend time together. Our youngest was also 26 when he got a home located on the premises that he works, he also comes home on the weekends he does not have to work. We feel as long as you love each other and enjoy being together you should cherish the moments that you can with your parents or son's or daughters. Paige just enjoy your parents as much as you can until your special someone comes into your life. Then you can share them together. Good topic to share. Stephanie

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    1. Thanks for sharing this Stephanie! I'm happy to hear about your relationships with your sons and daughter-in-law. I think your family and my family has something that many don't these days. Thank you for the sweet advice. :)

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  3. I live at home, wouldn't be opposed to moving out if the opportunity came up (I would love to live with some of my girlfriends... I think that would be a good experience). But since I'm still in college and only working part time it isn't an option, oh well! My parents are very gracious and have never pressured me to move out, although I know they'd be supportive if I did!

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    1. It's great that you have supportive parents! :) Yeah, I think if I were to ever move out before getting married (which I'm not planning on at the moment) it would be with a trusted girlfriend/friends!

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    1. Thanks Kate! Happy blogging. Just remember to write about things you are interested in and it will not become a chore!

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  5. I'm in the part-time live with parents camp (I'm at college for 3 months, home for a month, college for 3, then home or an internship alternating over the summer; for 4 years I was 18 hours away from home and now I'm only 8 :) ). Going back to live with my parents is a weird situation for me, especially the older I get -- in 5 years of college my life is getting progressively more independent, from living in a dorm to living in an on-campus apartment with friends to, now, living off-campus by myself, having my own car to use, and paying rent myself.

    As much as I LOVE to go home and spend time with my family for long periods in between semesters, I also often find it depressing to a certain extent. Part of it is I feel cut off, as we live in a rural area that's not where I went to high school. Our church is small, so there's few people around my age with whom to interact. I also don't have a high amount of activity like I do when I'm at school (where I also work and volunteer). I've thought about what it would've been like to be a stay-at-home daughter after high school and realized that I would've had practically no social outlet -- again, our church is small, and while I do some activities with my family outside the home, there's still not much chance to interact with people my own age.

    What also disturbs me when I go home is that I revert back to dependence. Going (way far) away from home the past years has forced me to do things for myself -- to get out of my comfort zone in ways that I wouldn't normally choose to do, and which my parents haven't forced when I'm home. I feel like adulthood and maturity has come slowly for me even being on my own, and I can't imagine (for me personally) how difficult it would've been for me to find that had I stayed with my parents full-time.

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    1. Thanks for sharing your own experiences Susanna! :) It's interesting to hear about how maturity level/ independence is affected by when you live with or without your parents! :)

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  6. A very interesting topic Paige! I'll keep my eyes open for a post with the results/your thoughts.

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